Thank You People Who Are Nice To

People think NPD is all about ego, but it’s really about needing significance to feel okay.

When you’re starving for connection and validation, and people only show up on their time, it feels like betrayal. Like you’re invisible.

It’s not that we don’t appreciate connections, it’s that the timing and consistency matter more than people realize.

Casual check-ins or delayed replies feel like crumbs when you’re starving. And that mismatch? It drains you fast.

The frustration turns into anger. Not because we want to be jerks, but because it feels like people don’t get it.

It’s not enough to love us when it’s convenient. We crave that deeper, constant significance in their lives.

This isn’t about being selfish either. It’s about survival in a way that makes sense to us.

NPD makes it hard to self-soothe, so we seek external validation to stabilize. And when people can’t meet that need, it feels like a direct attack on our worth.

For those with NPD

You’re not alone in this. It’s tough when your needs feel like too much for others. But recognizing the pattern can help.

Seek people who naturally meet you halfway and learn to self-soothe when they can’t.

No one is going to save you

I AM DISAPPOINTED IN YOU GUYS. WHERE IS ALL THE P1/P4 SELFCEST. THERE NEEDS TO BE MORE!!

great. i was hoping my childhood would follow me forever and attach itself to my psyche and spread like mold. This is good

Literally nothing worse than being high as fuck with nothing to do

Idk man it’s so easy to get bogged down in all the bullshit online but when my then-6 year old cousin found out I was trans he said “ok” then corrected my grandma when she misgendered me. I was once the third between a gay man and a lesbian. Two lesbians once invited me back to their place when I presented as a man. I met an AMAB nb butch who looked strikingly to outsiders like a cis man and it was one of the more sapphic experiences I’ve had. I nervously wore a boydyke shirt to pride and got 3 different cis-looking femme folks tell me they loved my shirt. I once told a trans group at a protest that any pronouns were fine for me and one person said “wow, I’m impressed and intimidated by people like that. I don’t know that I could be that chill with pronouns.” I once told a GNC friend I wished I could wear a type of “opposite” gender clothing after I had already transitioned and so it would be associated with my AGAB and he said “You could just do it.” I’ve had cishet men fight cops for me before. The first time I had a doctor ask me if my name was different than what was on my forms I had to try not to cry. Last week, a phone call with a doctor’s office where I am generally cis passing asked unprompted if my name listed is what I want to be called. It touched me then too. I told a lesbian friend once I felt like my attraction to men AND women both felt gay. She said “makes sense.” And we moved on. I go by different pronouns in different circles. I’ve had gay women love my facial hair. I’ve had gay men like my tits. It’s all out there, I promise. It can be hard to find it but I promise there is community like you and community who likes you. And it’s more messy and beautiful than tumblr discourse makes it out to be.

i get into a horrific car accident while carrying a crock pot full of meatballs in the passenger seat. at the hospital, the surgeons cannot sort out which chunks of meat are me and which are not, so I end up with several meatballs sewn into my guts. despite this I make a full recovery, and they elect not to remove the meatballs because quote 'they seem comfy in there.' i go on the talk show circuit and become moderately famous as The Meatballs Woman. when i die i am buried under a gravestone with meatballs carved on it. in the year 2438, a grad student from what is now Cambodia who is studying the late pre-collapse American Empire writes her thesis on this, concluding that I probably never existed and was a conflation of several real stories and urban legends. years later, a pop-history book wildly misinterprets this and several other things, arguing for the existence of a historic American religious pantheon including figures like The Meatballs Woman, Florida Man, Emperor Norton, etc. this book sells bizarrely well and inspires a new neo-pagan movement, which in turn leads to a weird shipping community, resulting in a small but vibrant scene of ABO fics featuring me and MrBeast (who in this context has been interpreted as a god of excess and trickery)

this chilling scenario is only one of the multiple reasons I am going to attempt to not crash my car today

NGC 2633 (top) and NGC 2634 (center) // Stjepan Prugovečki

SB WORK UNWORTHY OF MAIN. I FEAR I HAVE NOT OPENED THIS BOOK IN MONTHS

That’s chill