Do You Ever Look At Strangers Smiling Or Dancing Or Having Fun And Think “i Love You”? or See Someone

Things you swear by?

Faux blowouts using my 1.5” T3 curling iron.

A very soft hand on the makeup and lashes.

Clean perfume, nothing cheap or overpowering.

Feminine outfits, I go out of my way to look nice.

High quality, but relatively simple, accessories

Things you look for in men?

Put together (usually subtle designer), good haircuts and neat nails, expensive aesthetic dental and vision care, a high quality/rigorous educational background, a pricey hobby or two, a network of personal and professional connections that would boggle the mind of an average person, a good family name (no matter how small), experience traveling, good manners and a mild temperament, a set career path with a reasonable backup plan, little to no debt, and good mental health.

I feel like my conception of It girls was deeply shaped by growing up in the 2000s…I simply don’t believe that anyone who is chronically online can ever be a true It girl. It girls aren’t supposed to take loads of photos of themselves, they’re supposed to be photographed by others stumbling out of nightclubs or in appear in best dressed magazine spreads …They’re supposed to seem a bit mysterious and unreachable and like they’re always busy having fun and being glamorous. For this and so many other reasons I just cannot understand how anyone could conceive of Dasha from Redscare or any of these dead-eyed Dimes Square adjacent people as an It girl. Those people are a charisma vacuum. They never look like they’re having any fun and they’re also obsessed with online culture wars (profoundly unchic behaviour). Also their personas are extremely effortfully contrived while the true It girl exude effortlessness and seems like she influences people and culture simply by existing.

If you aren’t doing it authentically + from your heart, why do it at all?

from a reddit thread about stuffed animals

Universe, please keep me soft, but hard to fool. Surround me with energy that pours back into me. Expose what’s not real. Elevate what is. And when I forget who I am, bring me home.

what a privilege it is to become the person you used to pray to be

i became what i needed and called it art

Favorite American vacation spots?

The Greenbrier in West Virginia and the Montage at Palmetto Bluff in South Carolina are both gorgeous. I prefer the South to the West Coast now, so my opinions on vacation spots are going to be biased. Both resorts are more relaxing than Amangiri (Utah, ugh) and the Miraval (I can’t do Arizona), and the Florida resorts and 30A have been run over by influencers, so I don’t bother visiting anymore. Another really fun thing to do is to rent a nice beach house somewhere right on the water, in an area with great restaurants and even better weather, and spend a week just relaxing. I rented a spot on Lake Michigan with a few girlfriends last summer and it was a perfect time.