Things You Swear By?

Chic and cringe are twin sisters and sometimes they switch places!!!

I’m sitting in my hairstylist’s chair for 6 hours today, so I’m shopping and designing my new place on my iPad. I’m moving to university and rushing this autumn, so I’m in the process of choosing what I’ll wear for each day. I don’t have a budget, and I like to shop, but the issue is I’m always out or otherwise busy with something more pressing than shopping, so it’s nice to sit with foils in my hair and focus on pulling everything together. This is much better than the Peking Duck and Diet Coke rest we do when I have a long appointment.

no matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and consclentiously,

unknown friends will come and seek you

Every woman needs a simple day dress. Something easy to throw on and wear out, flattering and feminine, not too long or too short, and preferably form-fitting. I have a cream Ted Baker midi dress that I love; it flatters my body, I’m constantly getting compliments on it, and it fits my vibe perfectly.

I wear my dress with gold jewelry, a little pair of gold Steve Madden kitten sandals, put on some soft bronzed makeup, run my curling iron through my hair, and I’m ready to go. Looking good isn’t hard; you just have to invest your time well and be ready and willing to put yourself together before you leave your home.

love yourself despite it all. love yourself even when you said the wrong thing. when you messed up in class. when you got a grade you didn’t like. when you haven’t been outside in a week. accept yourself in spite of it all. accept yourself even if you didn’t get into the university you wanted. when you broke up with someone you thought you would stay with forever. when the guilt is eating you alive. when you feel like you can’t take it anymore. you are already whole, you are enough.

love demands exposure so the question isn’t do you want love but do you want to be seen?

Focus on what you want. Disregard that which ought to remain in the past. Focus on your desires. Disregard the rest. Focus. Focus. Focus. Especially on what you want to grow. Multiply your most delicious desires. Fucking alchemize your present reality into your wildest fantasy.

More ways you found your style?

I get my hair inspiration from HairbyFlisan. I wanted a really specific blonde color with a Scandinavian hairline, a seamless blend, and a custom row of extensions to make my hair look thicker. I didn’t want platinum or anything harsh; I wanted a gentle shift towards softness and an effortless blonde that would match my skin tone.

I usually do a matching French manicure and pedicure. I start with intensive nail preparation and make sure that my cuticles are removed and my natural nails have been prepped and prepared nicely. What I want is an elongated nail bed, a hidden natural nail free edge, gently rounded nails, a shorter smile line, a double layer of clear gel topcoat, and a soft pink base with a classic white smile line.

I tan, but I never, ever use tanning beds. I spray tan, and that’s enough for me. I like a neutral tan, not too dark or not too light; I like a full coverage and clean look, and the tan I use has to work for my style. I actually go to a bridal spray tan specialist for this; she’s not too expensive, and she’s very talented. She knows how to work with an olive undertone, and I love the way she’s able to blend the product into my skin.

My teeth were a major investment for me. I got a job at a dental office when I was 18, and over the past four years, I’ve been on a whole journey. I had braces for two years and had my wisdom teeth extracted; then I did professional Zoom whitening to get my teeth to the even white color I wanted, and I finished up with composite bonding and gum contouring. It was an ordeal to get where I am, and maintaining my smile is of the utmost importance to me now.

I apply my makeup with a lighter hand now. It’s easy for me to go overboard, and I’ve found that I look my best with cleaner looks. Learning how to do my face and blend my makeup, following bridal makeup artists and makeup artists in my favorite cities to find looks that I liked and could learn to do, practicing daily, and finding quality products in the right shades and with the right undertones were major parts of finally figuring out how to get my makeup to look the way I wanted it to.

a deep connection can’t be formed without emotional safety. without safety, there’s no trust. without trust, there’s no vulnerability. without vulnerability, there’s no intimacy + without intimacy, there’s no true connection.

do you ever look at strangers smiling or dancing or having fun and think “i love you”? or see someone bop their heads along with the music from their headphones and you just wish you could tell them how pretty they look doing just that? or feel your heart warm when you watch someone laugh really loudly and then think about them later that day, completely randomly? you’re a part of that, too. someone has kept quiet about how beautiful you are to them, has smiled at the thought of this complete stranger that made their day, has repeated a joke you made to someone they love. there’s a lot of quiet love and admiration and connection in this world and even if you think you don’t belong, you’ve always been and always will be a part of it.