I Was Such A Weird Lonely Little Girl And Maybe I Grew To Be A Weird Lonely Woman But Idc I Built This

Things you swear by?

Faux blowouts using my 1.5” T3 curling iron.

A very soft hand on the makeup and lashes.

Clean perfume, nothing cheap or overpowering.

Feminine outfits, I go out of my way to look nice.

High quality, but relatively simple, accessories

when anaïs nin said “i want to be able to trust, not live in perpetual self-defense.”

Sunni Gaines by Raoul Alejandre

askin God to remove laziness, procrastination, and the fear of being judged out my body by tonight and forever, thanks!

Woman to woman, I tell you this because I care about you:

• Get your degree, get your bag and be your own man. Be independent.

• Don't get married or move in with someone until your brain is fully developed (age 25)

• Be obsessed with improving yourself every single day. You can create your own dream life.

• Don't get pregnant unless you're emotionally, physically and financially ready.

• Be surrounded by people that make you wiser, happier and prettier.

• You are still young in your 20's, 30's, 40's and more.

• A relationship is partnership: Make sure he helps you too

• Always take care of your appearance

i want to shake many young women and say you can grow in private. and what i mean by that is that you don’t have to publicly self-flagellate when you don’t know something or when you say something a little insensitive or whatever else. you don’t have to report your Bad Thoughts and Ignorance to the crowd who waits to judge you. you do not have to pay penance. you do not have to issue public statements. nothing more is gained from burying yourself in shame than you could gain by thinking “oh i don’t know about this” and looking it up real quick, or thinking “hm, that wasn’t how i want to behave, i’ll do different next time” and then moving on with your life. no need to choke yourself with it.

Focus on what you want. Disregard that which ought to remain in the past. Focus on your desires. Disregard the rest. Focus. Focus. Focus. Especially on what you want to grow. Multiply your most delicious desires. Fucking alchemize your present reality into your wildest fantasy.

I go to the gym twice daily, every day without fail. I do a 3-mile walk every day at noon, I stretch my body twice daily, and I have a single themed class on Sundays at noon in lieu of my walk. I like being slim, active, and flexible, and the time I spend in the gym feels like a reward instead of a punishment or a requirement.

I drink green juice, kefir, aloe juice, kombucha, and green tea religiously on top of water. I had an issue with not hydrating; I turned that around quickly, and I swapped all my sodas for good drinks (with the exception of the occasional Diet Coke). I start the morning and end my night with a hot lemon tea with a little honey, keep myself hydrated with electrolyte salts, and make sure that I’m on track to meeting my daily hydration goals before I let myself have a soda.

I believe in little treatments and I indulge myself. I do float tanks frequently and love the feeling, I keep up with red light therapy, I love a classic sauna sit, and I think it’s important to sit in salt rooms and meditate. Regardless of whether or not these things actually work, they add to my quality of life and make me feel so much better. Salt rooms are great for my anxiety.

I eat well and really enjoy cooking and baking. I used to be obsessed with limiting the amount of sugar, carbs, and calories I consumed, but then I realized that I could cut out most fast/processed foods and alcohol and eat what I want. If I’m cooking, baking, and creating meals or going to restaurants with good menus, I’m happy to eat whatever I want and enjoy it, but for my own sake, I stay away from really unhealthy stuff and most alcohol.

I do lymphatic drainage massages weekly, and I think that they’ve helped to sculpt my body, and I also do acupuncture, which I believe helps me to not feel as tired and has helped take all of the tension out of my shoulders and the backs of my calves. Both are necessary evils and have helped me function much better than I used to. The headaches I used to get nearly disappeared once I started getting acupuncture, and all of the bloating I used to get in the mornings basically disappeared once I added massages to my weekly routine and started using my roller at home.