Dear Men,

Emerging from the shadows into the radiant light. Life’s journey has led me through darkness, but resilience and self-discovery have illuminated my path. Here’s to embracing the light within and letting it shine bright.

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The concept of ‘Show, Don’t Tell’ is a writing technique to convey drama to the readers or viewers of a book or movie. This is a scene from The Greatest Showman and in it, PT Barnum the kid, is singing A Million Dreams. If you look at the picture, I’m the right side, people are working in an office and on the left, there’s a cemetery. Without using words, the showrunners have painted a picture of what millions of us do from generation to generation.

Each of us have dreams and goals in this life and whether or not we recognize it, time moves fast and before you know it, 60 years of your life has passed. Those hopes, dreams and aspirations and the time to accomplish them are pretty much gone. The bottom line is this: if you have goals, act on them NOW. You may think you have enough time but the time is going by at an exceptional pace and before you know it, it’ll be gone and all those dreams and goals go up in smoke and disappear.

Procrastination can be something that can hurt us while we’re waiting for things to happen OR you can take life by the balls and make it happen. If you do the latter, you’ll be able to see those million dreams come to fruition.

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Watch: John Cena continues, “So, let’s try this one more time. Close your eyes.” 

In personal training, trainers are often seen as quasi counselors, much like hairdressers, bartenders, etc. My experience in my current field is no different, but as I transition to the psychology side of things, I see many similarities between my current clients and those individuals I do therapy with as a crisis counselor. Anxiety, ADHD, OCD and a multitude of other behaviors and stressors cross over these two areas quite often in my experience, worrying about how they look, anxious about trying something new and confronting their ‘demons’.

The mental health system is set up in a way that is not just a way of dealing with the emotional and mental states of being, but also a form of self accountability and self discipline. Counselors as well as trainers try to instill these two qualities in their clients as much as possible.

I had someone I was counseling this evening ask me, “What if I’m not strong enough to go through it?” I’ve never had anybody ask me that before. What a lot of this kind of problem solving hinges on is going with your gut. I’ve always thought honesty is the best approach so I said, “What you’re going through right now isn’t easy and I know how much that hurts. However, if you do nothing, nothing will change. You need to start putting yourself and your needs first.”

Anybody can listen to your problems but it takes a real good listener to understand what you are trying to solve and how to get started.

People just want and need to be validated. That’s what it’s all about.

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You know those pictures you see after a long time has passed and you say to yourself, “My gawwwwd…who even are you and why don’t I look like this anymore??!”

Well…here we are. RIP to the 27 year old me.

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We don’t know what lies on the other side of this world and this life. We won’t know that until the inevitable happens to each of us and I’m just that, it’s a gift. I don’t want to know the date that I’m going to leave this world and pass on to wherever it is that we go. All I know for sure is that I truly try to embrace each and every moment with others that I can now because nobody knows when that final day is going to come. That should be a motivator for all of us to do good, be available for those the we care about and cherish every moment. I’ve heard of people who never get excited about things because if they do and it doesn’t happen, they really don’t lose anything. If something does happen, they take it as a pleasant surprise.

What a terrible way to live life! A friend of mine told me today after chatting for a few minutes that I have one of the most gratifying jobs in the world because I help people who’ve need direction and who for a lot of reasons, have lost hope. What makes life worth living each day for me is to help restore some of that hope back inside of those people I work with. Being able to reach so many lives with the gifts I’ve been given is a testament to the trauma I’ve been through and the richness I’ve found in everyday life and I wish that for all of you as well. Make the most of the time you’ve been given.

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How to Make Yourself Do What You Don’t Want To Do

1. Rather than listening to the voice in your head that is screaming “I hate this; I don’t want to do this” think about why it is a GOOD thing to do.

2. Instead of trying to pretend that you don’t feel this way, accept that you are feeling very blah and negative.

3. Don’t think about results and how well you think you’ll do, as this could raise your feelings of anxiety and fear. Just think about “right now” and the first thing you can do.

4. Accept that life is tough, and is full of things that suck – but recognise that doing hard stuff is better in the end. You’ll likely have more choices and freedom, if you do.

5. Just do a little bit for now – then give yourself a proper break – then go back and do some more – and soon you’ll find you’re in the flow.

6. Don’t allow your mind to wander and think of other things. Stay focused for that short time – and then stop, and have fun.

I just love your blog spot and damn, I wish we lived near each other. I feel t like in many ways as I read your material we are kindred spirits. I'll be back! Keep up the great vibes and blessinsg on your journey!

That’s so sweet! Please keep visiting, I’m definitely planning on more content!! Muah❤️❤️

🌊 Sometimes, the waves of emotions crash harder than expected. Feeling deeply can be a blessing and a burden, all at once. It’s okay to embrace the highs and lows, to let the tears fall, and to cherish the moments of pure joy. Every emotion shapes our journey and makes us who we are. 💙

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