New Look For The Fall! Graduating College, New Prospects On The Horizon And New Challenges For Me To

Waiting for opportunity to rain down from the sky? Well, you'll be waiting quite a while because in this life if you want to have anything that is worthwhile, you must work for it unfortunately. Some people just seem to have it all, right?  

No matter how hard you seem to try and make something more of your career, your relationships, etc., there's always someone better than you...or so it seems. Comparison to other people's social media reels, pics and achievements is BS because firstly, we don't see what goes into what made that pic or whatever it is happen so don't judge your behind the scenes with someone's motion picture debut. Secondly, most of what people show to the world of their 'perfect' lives is fabricated. It's like going to your high school reunion with a fake relationship, fake important job and lies to cover your true self up.  

Nobody in this world has it easy and the easiest thing for us to do is to get ourselves lost in someone else's fantasy life. If you want it to rain gold on you, open up Grimm's Fairy Tales because here on Earth, the only streets paved with gold are those that we have paved ourselves.   #streetspavedwithgold#fitness#goodintentions#hardworking#masculinity#menswork#provider#fitnesstrainer#personaltrainer#tacticalspecialist#therapy#therapist#author#podcaster#podcast#manalivepodcast#photography#penisvethoughts#empathy#writer#lifecoach#motivation#love#ingenuity#actor#voiceoveractor#commercialactor

Transparency is crucial in any relationship we have that we actually give a damn about. If you can’t allow yourself to be 100% real with the people you love and care about, who can you be completely yourself with? If fear is holding you back, maybe these aren’t the friends you need in your corner when the going gets tough. Perhaps it’s not them. Maybe instead, it’s your subconscious telling you that it’s easier to play a role than be the real you.

BULLSHIT.

Being yourself is so much easier than fitting in because to fit in you have to change yourself to fit the expectations of the group you want to be accepted into. If you go into things being your 100% authentic self, the walls are down and the veil is lifted from the get go. You can then gravitate to those who accept you for the wonderful and awesome human being that you are.

#mentalhealth #authenticity #vulnerability #fittinginsucks #beingyourself #empathy #trueself #pittsburghgay #lgbtqia #personaltrainer #flipyourscriptpt #pghwellnesspt #mentalclarity #humanbehavior #psychology #therapist #childdevelopment #adultdevelopment #lifelessons #menswork #masculinityisnottoxic

If you have good intentions and it backfires, you’re the bad guy. If you put yourself first, you’re the selfish person. No matter what your motivation for taking of yourself or others, it seems that a lot of the times, you’re the anti-hero in your story.

Even Taylor Swift fans realize that you need to take care of yourself first if you ever are going to help anybody else because if you start helping others before you have yourself in check, it’s a recipe for disaster.

Always keep in mind that caring for yourself and your priorities isn’t selfish but exactly the opposite. Addressing unfinished business and healing wounds is how we move on healthily in life so be sure to tie up those old ghosts before you move on to better things.

#antihero #selfcare #motivation #motivationalspeaker #personaltrainer #mastertrainer #peace #oldscores #lifecoach #menswork #guidance #podcastersofinstagram #actor #writer #author

Mirror, mirror on the wall….

Have you ever noticed someone or even you trying to match the same behaviors as someone you’re in close proximity with or even someone you are engaging with in a conversation? Well, you’re not crazy, this is actually pretty common. It’s called the Mirroring effect. In the world of psychology, the mirroring effect occurs when you or another individual matches or ‘mirrors’ the nonverbal gestures the other person is doing because they may find them desirable, they may want to get something from them, etc. Infants and children do this all the time and it’s the main way they learn during those early years. There are also different types of mirroring that counselors, therapists and people helping couples discover how to better communicate with one another and making the relationship stronger.

People also use mirroring in the gym, who knew???! No, not the kind where teens and young adults flex in the mirror and take selfies….that’s a whole other psychological issue. The type of mirroring the goes on in the gym is usually very subtle but I see it all the time. See that huge guy doing those curls over there?? His arms are huge and maybe if you do curls like him, your arms will become just as huge. Lifters and fitness people have this unconscious ballet where they look at someone they want to look like and pick up their mannerisms on how the perform certain exercises and even pick up their speech patterns, how they walk and interact with other men and women.

Don’t believe, I dare you to watch people the next time you visit your gym. You may be surprised by what you observe.

#mirroringeffect #psychology #childdevelopment #brainwaves #nonverbalcommunication #apsire #observe #humanbehavior #fitness #personaltrainer #psychologystudent #therapist #futurecounselor

That’s a wrap on the #2024 season of my life! Thanks for the lessons, the wins, and most importantly, the people! Here comes a great 2025!

#personaltrainer #psychology #fitness #mentalhealth #therapist #interventionist #pittsburgh #actor

New horizons can be an exciting and scary thing all at the same time. Have you ever stopped to think how NOT scary change is though? In the grand scheme of things, our problems are minuscule but we tend to view them as if they’re consuming everything in the world. It makes sense because most of us have a centralized view of the world, our shit is what matters and nobody else’s. What we need to do instead of worrying how things will work out is go with the flow, enjoy the views, hold on over the bumps along the way and accept what is.

If we broaden our view to see the bigger picture and focus on being calm and being present in each individual moment, we’ll be able to soften into a less anxious and more relaxed atmosphere that surrounds us.

#flipyourscriptpodcast #bridges #viewpoint #atmosphere #fitness #softenintocalm #changeyourthoughts #stoicmindset #menswork #thoughts #lgbt #worldview #horizons #personaltrainer #psychology #mentalhealth

🌟 Embracing a Hopeful Mindset 🌟

Life is a journey filled with ups and downs, but what keeps us moving forward is hope. 💫

Hope isn’t just a feeling; it’s a choice we make every day. It’s the light that guides us through the darkest moments and the belief that tomorrow holds new possibilities. 🌈✨

No matter the challenges you face, remember that hope fuels resilience and ignites the fire within us to keep pushing forward. Stay positive, keep dreaming, and never lose sight of the incredible potential that lies ahead. 💪💖

Tag someone who needs a little hope today. Let’s spread positivity and uplift each other! 🌻

#HopefulMindset #StayPositive #KeepBelieving #SpreadPositivity #holdon #iknowitsgonnabeokay #psychology #personaltrainer #empathy #compassion #togetherforever #hopemindset #hope #trending #fyp #foryou

The concept of ‘Show, Don’t Tell’ is a writing technique to convey drama to the readers or viewers of a book or movie. This is a scene from The Greatest Showman and in it, PT Barnum the kid, is singing A Million Dreams. If you look at the picture, I’m the right side, people are working in an office and on the left, there’s a cemetery. Without using words, the showrunners have painted a picture of what millions of us do from generation to generation.

Each of us have dreams and goals in this life and whether or not we recognize it, time moves fast and before you know it, 60 years of your life has passed. Those hopes, dreams and aspirations and the time to accomplish them are pretty much gone. The bottom line is this: if you have goals, act on them NOW. You may think you have enough time but the time is going by at an exceptional pace and before you know it, it’ll be gone and all those dreams and goals go up in smoke and disappear.

Procrastination can be something that can hurt us while we’re waiting for things to happen OR you can take life by the balls and make it happen. If you do the latter, you’ll be able to see those million dreams come to fruition.

#amilliondreams #thegreatestshowman #hughjackman #goals #goalsetting #showdonttell #forcedperspective #actor #writer #podcastersofinstagram #procrastination #grablifebytheballs #personaltrainer #development #dramaticinterpretation #pittsburgh #lgbtq #pride #perspective

When I got into this business, I had many doubts of my ability to help people lose weight, gain strength and feel better about themselves. In training school, it was simple; go to class, learn different training techniques and human anatomy, take exams and get certified. Working with actual people who are trusting you to assist them with changing their lifestyles for the better can be a huge task to undertake and something I take very seriously.

From being a spinning instructor, Zumba instructor, a dance instructor and now a veteran personal trainer of 16 or so years, I’ve found out that it’s a hell of a lot more than teaching people to eat right, pick up heavy shit and hold themselves accountable. At the end of the day, it’s about connection and vulnerability.

You can’t start any sort of process such as this without wading around in your own vulnerability and understanding that a lot of times you need to connect with someone else to be able to help you through it. I have to admit that I kind of hate it when people thank me, I mean, I understand the sentiment but I just guide my clients, they do the hard stuff.

At the end of the day, I don’t have to do this. I get to do this and right now, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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