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MASCULINITY AND HOMOSEXUALITY

The problem is that homosexuality and effeminacy are virtually synonymous in the modern public’s mind. All men who love men are stigmatized as being intrinsically effeminate. Men who engage in homosexual sex are expected to embrace gay culture and are believed, especially by other homosexuals, to be ‘girls on the inside’—no matter how they look and behave, or what their interests may be. As I mentioned above, a sense of manhood is important to most men. Yet, simply by acknowledging same-sex desire, men are expected to relinquish their manhood. They must submit to psychological castration. While this may seem like no great loss to effeminate men who never put much stock in manhood, what of those who do hold masculinity in high regard? What of those androphiles who love men and love being men, for whom masculinity is a thing of beauty and value? I don’t love men because I see myself as girlish; I love men because I’ve developed a deep-seated appreciation for men and for masculinity itself. Men fascinate and inspire me. I love them in their finest moments, but also in the midst of struggle. Just watching men is a pleasure; I see in them innumerable qualities that women often fail to appreciate. I appreciate these things precisely because I am a man, because their masculinity is a reflection of my own. And yet, for this, in some perverse twist of reason, I must give up my own manhood? For this, I am regarded as effeminate and expected to entertain myself with girly things? Fuck that. - Jack Donovan

How to Make Yourself Do What You Don’t Want To Do

1. Rather than listening to the voice in your head that is screaming “I hate this; I don’t want to do this” think about why it is a GOOD thing to do.

2. Instead of trying to pretend that you don’t feel this way, accept that you are feeling very blah and negative.

3. Don’t think about results and how well you think you’ll do, as this could raise your feelings of anxiety and fear. Just think about “right now” and the first thing you can do.

4. Accept that life is tough, and is full of things that suck – but recognise that doing hard stuff is better in the end. You’ll likely have more choices and freedom, if you do.

5. Just do a little bit for now – then give yourself a proper break – then go back and do some more – and soon you’ll find you’re in the flow.

6. Don’t allow your mind to wander and think of other things. Stay focused for that short time – and then stop, and have fun.

7 Rules of Life

1. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

2. What others think of you is none of your business.

3. Time heals almost everything; give it time.

4. Don`t compare your life to others`, and don`t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

5. Stop thinking too much; it`s alright not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it.

6. No-one is in charge of your happiness, except you.

7. Smile. You don`t own all the problems in the world.

Source: Whisper of the heart.

**Love is Love: Embrace Yourself and Others** 🌈

In a world where we’re constantly bombarded with stereotypes and societal norms, it’s essential to remember that the true beauty lies in embracing who we are, including our sexual orientation and gender identity. This month, and every month, let’s celebrate and support the LGBTQIA+ community by spreading love and acceptance.

It’s not just about tolerance; it’s about full acceptance and celebration of the unique tapestry of identities that make up our world. Whether you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, asexual, or any other identity under the rainbow, you deserve to live authentically and love without fear or judgment.

Remember, self-acceptance is the first step towards embracing others. So let’s be proud of who we are and create a world where love knows no boundaries. Together, we can make a difference. 🏳️‍🌈 #LoveIsLove #Pride #EmbraceYourself #lgbtqia #gayman #lovehasnoboundaries #pittsburghgay #acceptyourself #selfacceptance #loveisblind #pride #mentalhealthmatters #makeadifference #equality #progress #createalifeyoulove

When I got into this business, I had many doubts of my ability to help people lose weight, gain strength and feel better about themselves. In training school, it was simple; go to class, learn different training techniques and human anatomy, take exams and get certified. Working with actual people who are trusting you to assist them with changing their lifestyles for the better can be a huge task to undertake and something I take very seriously.

From being a spinning instructor, Zumba instructor, a dance instructor and now a veteran personal trainer of 16 or so years, I’ve found out that it’s a hell of a lot more than teaching people to eat right, pick up heavy shit and hold themselves accountable. At the end of the day, it’s about connection and vulnerability.

You can’t start any sort of process such as this without wading around in your own vulnerability and understanding that a lot of times you need to connect with someone else to be able to help you through it. I have to admit that I kind of hate it when people thank me, I mean, I understand the sentiment but I just guide my clients, they do the hard stuff.

At the end of the day, I don’t have to do this. I get to do this and right now, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

#personaltrainer #ihavethebestclients #igettodothis #thehardstuff #fitnessmusings #trainersbelike #pittsburgh #spinningclass #zumbafitness #hiitworkout #bodybuilding #connection #vulnerability #strength #power #superpowers #hardworkpaysoff #empathy #therapist #sportspsycholgy

You know those pictures you see after a long time has passed and you say to yourself, “My gawwwwd…who even are you and why don’t I look like this anymore??!”

Well…here we are. RIP to the 27 year old me.

#pittsburghgay #actor #personaltrainer #lookingback #ageregression #mygawd #olderisbetter #youngisanattitude #throughthemirror #psychologystudent #lgbtq #youngpup #empath #writer #motivation #podcastersofinstagram #artist #eldermillennial

“Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason to believe.” Faith is the water that flows between the shores of uncertainty.

#voltaire #faith #strength #motivation #believe #empathy #vulnerability #uncertainty #lgbtq #pittsburgh #writer #psychologystudent #counselor #therapist #teacher #personaltrainer #lifecoach #menswork

Transparency is crucial in any relationship we have that we actually give a damn about. If you can’t allow yourself to be 100% real with the people you love and care about, who can you be completely yourself with? If fear is holding you back, maybe these aren’t the friends you need in your corner when the going gets tough. Perhaps it’s not them. Maybe instead, it’s your subconscious telling you that it’s easier to play a role than be the real you.

BULLSHIT.

Being yourself is so much easier than fitting in because to fit in you have to change yourself to fit the expectations of the group you want to be accepted into. If you go into things being your 100% authentic self, the walls are down and the veil is lifted from the get go. You can then gravitate to those who accept you for the wonderful and awesome human being that you are.

#mentalhealth #authenticity #vulnerability #fittinginsucks #beingyourself #empathy #trueself #pittsburghgay #lgbtqia #personaltrainer #flipyourscriptpt #pghwellnesspt #mentalclarity #humanbehavior #psychology #therapist #childdevelopment #adultdevelopment #lifelessons #menswork #masculinityisnottoxic

Mirror, mirror on the wall….

Have you ever noticed someone or even you trying to match the same behaviors as someone you’re in close proximity with or even someone you are engaging with in a conversation? Well, you’re not crazy, this is actually pretty common. It’s called the Mirroring effect. In the world of psychology, the mirroring effect occurs when you or another individual matches or ‘mirrors’ the nonverbal gestures the other person is doing because they may find them desirable, they may want to get something from them, etc. Infants and children do this all the time and it’s the main way they learn during those early years. There are also different types of mirroring that counselors, therapists and people helping couples discover how to better communicate with one another and making the relationship stronger.

People also use mirroring in the gym, who knew???! No, not the kind where teens and young adults flex in the mirror and take selfies….that’s a whole other psychological issue. The type of mirroring the goes on in the gym is usually very subtle but I see it all the time. See that huge guy doing those curls over there?? His arms are huge and maybe if you do curls like him, your arms will become just as huge. Lifters and fitness people have this unconscious ballet where they look at someone they want to look like and pick up their mannerisms on how the perform certain exercises and even pick up their speech patterns, how they walk and interact with other men and women.

Don’t believe, I dare you to watch people the next time you visit your gym. You may be surprised by what you observe.

#mirroringeffect #psychology #childdevelopment #brainwaves #nonverbalcommunication #apsire #observe #humanbehavior #fitness #personaltrainer #psychologystudent #therapist #futurecounselor

Emerging from the shadows into the radiant light. Life’s journey has led me through darkness, but resilience and self-discovery have illuminated my path. Here’s to embracing the light within and letting it shine bright.

#Transformation #Growth #fitness #stoic #Pittsburghgay #outofthedarkness #intothelight #personaltrainer #motivation #growthmindset #superstar #actor #malemodel #lgbtq #pittsburgh #journey

There is no timestamp on trauma. There isn’t a formula that you can insert yourself into to get from horror to healed. Be patient. Take up space. Let your journey be the balm. #traumarecovery #traumaresponse #itllbeokay #itgetsbetter #personaltraining #strength #mentalstrength #motivation #learntoheal #healing #standupforyourself #empathy #emotions #lifecoach #menswork #womenswork #bethebalm #checkyourboys #takeupspace #mentalfitness

🌟 Embracing Vulnerability 🌟

Let's talk about the power of vulnerability, especially for men. Society often perpetuates the idea that men should be tough, strong, and stoic, but the truth is that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. It takes courage to be open, honest, and vulnerable, and it's an essential part of being human.

It's okay for men to feel and express their emotions. Whether it's joy, sadness, fear, or love, allowing yourself to be vulnerable can lead to deeper connections, better mental health, and personal growth. By embracing vulnerability, we can break free from the constraints of traditional masculinity and create a more inclusive and empathetic world.

So, to all the men out there, let's challenge the stigma around vulnerability and encourage each other to be authentic and open. Remember, it's okay not to be okay, and showing vulnerability is a sign of strength, not weakness. Together, let's redefine what it means to be a strong and empowered man!

#Vulnerability #EmbraceYourself #BreakTheStigma #Authenticity #MentalHealth #Strength #Empowerment #RealMen #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfLove #personaltrainer #pittsburgh #menswork #lifecoach #lgbtq #malemodel #gayman #pride #fyp #foryou

Your scars are what make you beautiful, love yourself first and the only time you should look back is to see how far you've come..

#scars #fitness #strength #lgbt #gayman #visability #empath #psychology #loveyourself #selfcare #malemodel #beautiful #podcastersofinstagram #stoicism #goals #believeinyourself #noir #mementomori #cestlavie #personaltrainer

When we’re young, everything seems like it’s coming to an end. The fact is that it’s just beginning. With age there’s wisdom, and humility. Laugh at your mistakes, learn the lessons, and cherish the ride.

#cherishedmoments #mentalhealth #writer #psychology #personaltrainer #strength #wisdom #ageisnothingbutanumber #humble #olderandwiser #lifehacks #fyp #foryou #flipyourscriptpt

New horizons can be an exciting and scary thing all at the same time. Have you ever stopped to think how NOT scary change is though? In the grand scheme of things, our problems are minuscule but we tend to view them as if they’re consuming everything in the world. It makes sense because most of us have a centralized view of the world, our shit is what matters and nobody else’s. What we need to do instead of worrying how things will work out is go with the flow, enjoy the views, hold on over the bumps along the way and accept what is.

If we broaden our view to see the bigger picture and focus on being calm and being present in each individual moment, we’ll be able to soften into a less anxious and more relaxed atmosphere that surrounds us.

#flipyourscriptpodcast #bridges #viewpoint #atmosphere #fitness #softenintocalm #changeyourthoughts #stoicmindset #menswork #thoughts #lgbt #worldview #horizons #personaltrainer #psychology #mentalhealth

I ain’t no damn secretary!

#ghostthemovie #whoopigoldberg #mollyyouindangergirl #cinema #lgbtq🌈 #vocalist #actor #personaltrainer #fyp #foryou

There’s so much body shaming, etc. in the world today that this act of self-love is a huge flex for your psyche and whenever I get the chance to do so, you better believe I dress to impress and you should to. It’s self-care and it’s going to make you feel great about yourself, guaranteed.

#selfcare #selfloveisthebestlove #dresstoimpress #handsomeman #selfloveisaflex #lofecoach #loveyourbody #personaltrainer #selfdevelopment #motivationmonday #writer #fitness #tuxedo #lgbtqcommunity #spiffy

If you have good intentions and it backfires, you’re the bad guy. If you put yourself first, you’re the selfish person. No matter what your motivation for taking of yourself or others, it seems that a lot of the times, you’re the anti-hero in your story.

Even Taylor Swift fans realize that you need to take care of yourself first if you ever are going to help anybody else because if you start helping others before you have yourself in check, it’s a recipe for disaster.

Always keep in mind that caring for yourself and your priorities isn’t selfish but exactly the opposite. Addressing unfinished business and healing wounds is how we move on healthily in life so be sure to tie up those old ghosts before you move on to better things.

#antihero #selfcare #motivation #motivationalspeaker #personaltrainer #mastertrainer #peace #oldscores #lifecoach #menswork #guidance #podcastersofinstagram #actor #writer #author

Watch: John Cena continues, “So, let’s try this one more time. Close your eyes.” 

The concept of ‘Show, Don’t Tell’ is a writing technique to convey drama to the readers or viewers of a book or movie. This is a scene from The Greatest Showman and in it, PT Barnum the kid, is singing A Million Dreams. If you look at the picture, I’m the right side, people are working in an office and on the left, there’s a cemetery. Without using words, the showrunners have painted a picture of what millions of us do from generation to generation.

Each of us have dreams and goals in this life and whether or not we recognize it, time moves fast and before you know it, 60 years of your life has passed. Those hopes, dreams and aspirations and the time to accomplish them are pretty much gone. The bottom line is this: if you have goals, act on them NOW. You may think you have enough time but the time is going by at an exceptional pace and before you know it, it’ll be gone and all those dreams and goals go up in smoke and disappear.

Procrastination can be something that can hurt us while we’re waiting for things to happen OR you can take life by the balls and make it happen. If you do the latter, you’ll be able to see those million dreams come to fruition.

#amilliondreams #thegreatestshowman #hughjackman #goals #goalsetting #showdonttell #forcedperspective #actor #writer #podcastersofinstagram #procrastination #grablifebytheballs #personaltrainer #development #dramaticinterpretation #pittsburgh #lgbtq #pride #perspective

This Friday I turn another year older and I always try and reflect on things and do a little inventory of where I’ve been, what goals I’ve reached and what I want to accomplish in the next 365 days. Now that I’m considered ‘middle-aged’, the old saying that time goes by in an instant makes more sense these days.

When you’re young, all you see are doors opening and for our older adults, there comes a point where the doors that you used to see opening are starting to close. I’m still in my prime as far as I’m concerned and I have the better years of my life in front of me because I really believe that I’m starting to come into everything that I was meant to be in my forties. I remember on a very old episode of Oprah, when she turned 50, she had a saying her mom always told her. She said that “You’re 50s are everything you are meant to become.”which is why I continue to welcome each passing year with a positive outlook. We don’t get old because our bodies stop working like they used to or because we start to slow down. We become old when we adopt the mentality of someone who has decided they have no challenges left, no problems to solve and has a salty mentality towards the world and it’s people. For all my friends who are fellow 80s babies, we’ve now assumed that role of a wiser adult, who has learned from their mistakes and is ready to pass those lessons onto the next generation. Here’s to us!!

#aging #happybirthday #june9th #wisdom #41 #personaldevelopment #personaltrainer #fitnessmotivation #lifelessons #wisdom #reflection #mensmentalhealth #pittsburgh #survivor #empowered #goals #timegoesby #sentimental

May is Mental Health Awareness Month and this is a great time to take a look at those things in your life that make you sad, depressed, anxious and angry. Some of things you can’t control BUT some of those things you CAN control. Those things you can do something about take time, commitment and accountability to ensure that you are doing yourself a positive service instead of a negative one. Having good intentions when it comes to some sort of major change in your life is great in theory however good intentions do not pay the bills, lose the weight for you or get out of a toxic relationship with someone. Sometimes people can’t see past the end of their noses and totally miss the bigger picture of taking care of your mental health. Your mental state controls 100% yourself as a person and needs nurturing and understanding. You can workout and get a terrific physique but if you aren’t right in your head, the effort is fruitless because although you appear attractive to the outside world, inside you’re holding yourself hostage and running from those toxic behaviors that need weeded out of your brain.

There’s no shame in admitting to yourself that you need help in the mental department and these days there are tons of resources around to get you started on your way to finding clarity and getting your mind back on track.

#noshameinmygame #mentalhealthawareness #backontrack #personaltrainer #lifestyle #menslifecoach #lgbtq #pittsburgh #conversation #reality #empathy #compassion #noir #gayman #clarity #understanding

Not bad for almost 41! #personaltrainer #40yearsyoung #lgbtq #gayman #dilfintraining

Balance Makes Perfect!!!

https://pghwellnesscoach.com/2023/04/27/balance-makes-perfect-2/

#physicaltherapy #personaltraining #fitness #agingcommunity #health #balancemakesperfect #vestibulardisorders #stroke #cardiovascularhealth #medicalproblems #jointandbone #arthritis #mentalhealth #vitamins #doctor #PT #trainersbelike #author #writer #actor #pittsburghbased #bodybuilding #motivationalspeaker

We don’t know what lies on the other side of this world and this life. We won’t know that until the inevitable happens to each of us and I’m just that, it’s a gift. I don’t want to know the date that I’m going to leave this world and pass on to wherever it is that we go. All I know for sure is that I truly try to embrace each and every moment with others that I can now because nobody knows when that final day is going to come. That should be a motivator for all of us to do good, be available for those the we care about and cherish every moment. I’ve heard of people who never get excited about things because if they do and it doesn’t happen, they really don’t lose anything. If something does happen, they take it as a pleasant surprise.

What a terrible way to live life! A friend of mine told me today after chatting for a few minutes that I have one of the most gratifying jobs in the world because I help people who’ve need direction and who for a lot of reasons, have lost hope. What makes life worth living each day for me is to help restore some of that hope back inside of those people I work with. Being able to reach so many lives with the gifts I’ve been given is a testament to the trauma I’ve been through and the richness I’ve found in everyday life and I wish that for all of you as well. Make the most of the time you’ve been given.

#makethemostofit #life #lessonslearned #cherisheverymoment #littlemoments #everydaylife #everydaycanbeextraordinary #bealight #calminthestorm #therapy #personaltrainer #motivation #goodforthesoul #empathy #vulnerability #enjoylife #foryou #fyp #trending #thingsthatmatter #sunshine #lovenothate #lgbtq #gaan #gay #alliance #straight #humanity #reels #pittsburghgay #pittsburgh

Waiting for opportunity to rain down from the sky? Well, you'll be waiting quite a while because in this life if you want to have anything that is worthwhile, you must work for it unfortunately. Some people just seem to have it all, right?  

No matter how hard you seem to try and make something more of your career, your relationships, etc., there's always someone better than you...or so it seems. Comparison to other people's social media reels, pics and achievements is BS because firstly, we don't see what goes into what made that pic or whatever it is happen so don't judge your behind the scenes with someone's motion picture debut. Secondly, most of what people show to the world of their 'perfect' lives is fabricated. It's like going to your high school reunion with a fake relationship, fake important job and lies to cover your true self up.  

Nobody in this world has it easy and the easiest thing for us to do is to get ourselves lost in someone else's fantasy life. If you want it to rain gold on you, open up Grimm's Fairy Tales because here on Earth, the only streets paved with gold are those that we have paved ourselves.   #streetspavedwithgold#fitness#goodintentions#hardworking#masculinity#menswork#provider#fitnesstrainer#personaltrainer#tacticalspecialist#therapy#therapist#author#podcaster#podcast#manalivepodcast#photography#penisvethoughts#empathy#writer#lifecoach#motivation#love#ingenuity#actor#voiceoveractor#commercialactor